Although they advised him to keep an open mind in case a woman he liked came along, they have stopped that, he said, but have remained supportive. Shortly after that, having thought over what he would say, he told his parents he is gay. When he was 19, Persiko said he began mentioning to his parents that he had gay friends, gradually introducing the subject to them. In college he began to meet other gay men and his comfort with being gay grew. When he was able to admit he was attracted to men, he could not tell anyone else at first. Persiko said he spent 19 years lying to himself, deliberately misreading his own romantic interests in men as friendships, and his friendships with women, as love. "I've always been gay, I've always known it and once I accepted it myself, it was okay to tell other people." "Before I accepted it myself, I did all I could to hide it," said Craig Persiko, 22, a computer programmer who lives in Evanston. Those who do tell parents sometimes do it "accidentally-on-purpose" by leaving out a gay-themed book or love letters, or blurt out the information in anger, which makes the experience more difficult for everyone.īefore telling anyone, he said, it is important to get comfortable with being gay.
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